Appropriate Gifts - Making Suggestions to Relatives

Having your child receive a gift that will not last long, or is inappropriate, is one sure way to put a damper on the holiday. It's difficult for many relatives to select toys for children they see infrequently, and for youngsters with special needs, this process becomes a special challenge. Here are a few tips you can provide as guidance:

• The first consideration must always be safety. 
• Check the World Against Toys Causing Harm site at toysafety.org for information on recalls and safety warnings. 
• Children over the age of three years who continue to put non-food items into their mouths should not be given toys with small pieces. 
• ToysRUs has a site with safety hints for children with special needs. 
• Is the toy durable to last for over a year without breaking or coming apart?
• Is it resistant to water and can it be washed or cleaned?
• The next factor is the frustration level. 
• It should be difficult enough to provide a challenge, but not so hard it is frustrating--for example children with fine motor problems would appreciate larger building blocks, while tiny parts would prove impossible. 
• How much force is required to activate lights, motion, etc.?
• Games and puzzles should not have many complex steps, or the child will lose interest. 
• Can game rules be adapted so the youngster will feel successful?
• Is the activity or craft manageable alone, or does it require assistance?
• Appeal is also important. 
• Contrasting colors and varied textures provide stimulation. 
• Scents may attract some children and upset others--you need to give recommendations for your individual child on this one. 
• Lights and sounds are exciting and entertaining, but may also annoy parents.
• Does it allow for creativity or flexible play?
• Is it both developmentally and age appropriate?
• Toy use and positioning should also be examined.
• Can it be used by children who must lie down for part of the day? 
• Will it fit on a wheelchair tray?
• Is it adjustable in height, volume, speed, or difficulty level?
• For those in smaller apartments or homes, storage may be an issue.
• Does it expose the child to new technological skills? 
• Popularity can be a plus.
• Is it based on a familiar character?
• Does it tie in to a preferred TV show or movie?
• Would other children like this toy?
• Opportunities for interaction are beneficial.
• Will the child actively participate in the toy use?
• Can the toy be shared with others?
• Does it encourage interaction?

You may want to create a checklist from the items above that are a priority for you, and give this to the potential gift givers. They will appreciate the helpful hints. 

How do you share information about appropriate Christmas gifts for your child?